Have you ever wondered what it’s like to be a work at home mom? The freedom of making your own hours, being able to give your kids your attention when they need it, having the luxury of running an errand when duty calls.. They all sound great don’t they? They are all things that the “WAHM” has the ability to do but do we really get to do them? When my daughter was born my need to be a work-at-home-mom was justified. I wanted to spend all of my time with her but I also LOVE working and I didn’t want to give that up. My husband and I weighed the options and expenses and decided it was a good fit for us. What I didn’t think about were the struggles that come along with working from home. It truly takes commitment, organization, strength, discipline and lots and lots of coffee! From infant to toddler and beyond, you can make this work for you.
I have been a WAHM for almost three years and I want to share with you a few tricks to absolutely own your role as a Stay at Home Mama!
Asking for help is OK!! – Having a support person is key to being a successful stay at home mom. Whether it’s your spouse, friend, parent or sibling. Have someone you can fall back on when your work load is large and your laundry and dishes overflow. I am blessed that my mother is that person to me. She helps keep my daughter busy on days that I need to catch up. It is okay to delegate housework too, if you need extra help in the kitchen or laundry, let your spouse know. It is clinically proven, that it won’t kill them 😉
Interruptions Happen!! – Let’s face it, most of the time we are coffee clinging, pajama’d, messy bun, yesterday’s makeup wearing, couch potatoes but that’s not always something you want your client to know. I’m sure we all have stories of crazy things our kids have said, needed or proclaimed when we’re on important work calls but in all honesty, these situations make us more relatable. There are many ways to help you in situations like this, for instance, know where your mute button is! In most cases, it can be easily dismissed as a minor interruption and your client would never know the difference. For larger interruptions, you may have to ask to call back, which is okay! In my three years, I actually have found that if it’s expected to be a long call, taking a minute to explain you work from home with a baby or toddler actually opens up a door and can help make your client more comfortable if an interruption were to arise. I fully believe that taking the time before each call, to explain to your child that “Mommy is about to make a work call” really helps! I started doing this when my daughter was about one and a half. When I say this, she then knows it’s time to try to be as quiet as she can. I will say, that hasn’t stopped her from busting out her best “Let It Go” impression while I am on an important phone call 🙂
Entertainment is a must!! – I know that there are parents out there that frown upon screen time but it really can be a lifesaver for the WAHM. This doesn’t mean you need to let them have it all day long but using it as an incentive when you need to get some work done, helps even out the playing field. It also doesn’t need to be a screen, it could be a special toy or activity too. My daughter really enjoys “slime time” or “play doh hour”. When I am involved heavily on the computer, I will invite my daughter to join me at the table with a craft of some sort, whether it be coloring or painting, it keeps her involved and close. My daughter loves to mimic what I do for work, where I have been told “Shhhh!! Mommy, I am working!”and get the toddler glare. Touche dearest, touche!
MOM VS BOSS – The most important part of being a WAHM is setting limits for yourself: work vs home. If you’re constantly feeling torn between the two and not giving yourself proper time with each, you’re going to hit a wall where you’ll get overwhelmed and feel like a failure. Believe me, I’ve been there. Setting aside time and creating a realistic schedule will really help you succeed. I set aside one day a week where I “goof off”, we go on a play date, hit the zoo or go on a shopping adventure to our happy place (Target). Since we are WAHM we are accessible pretty much 24/7 via phone/email so even if we’re out and about, the work still gets done when it’s truly needed. Just remember to limit yourselves and not let yourself get overworked.
Nap Time Hustle – If you’re a WAHM currently, you know that the moment your child’s eyes close, we go into a frenzy. We think of all the things we can accomplish in this hour to two hour window And if you’re like me, you’re doing your work then find yourself trying to do ten loads of laundry, two loads of dishes, organizing your sock drawer and catching up on the latest Pinterest ideas for your imaginary mansion. Generally you want to use this hour to do what needs your attention the most, try to focus and use this time wisely.
It truly is a blessing to be able to stay at home with your children, raising them the way that you want them to be raised. I hope that these tips and tricks will help you fine tune your routine or help you in your decision to be a Work At Home Mom.